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Self-Defence
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The following is the text from an e-mail that I received
a few years ago.
Girls - take a read of this - it is to do with rape
and simple steps to defend yourself. It is worth reading
cause these days no-one is likely to stop and help
you so we need to help ourselves.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were
interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim
and here are some interesting facts:
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What are they looking for in
a potential victim?
- The #1 thing men look for in a potential
victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after
a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle
that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go
after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are
not common targets.
- The second thing
men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's
clothing is easy to remove quickly. The #1 outfit they
look for is overalls because many of them carry scissors
around to cut clothing and on overalls the straps can
be easily cut. They also look for women on their cell
phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities
while walking because they are off guard and can be easily
overpowered.
- The time of
day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is
in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
- The top three places women are
abducted from/attacked at are:
- Grocery
store parking lots.
- Office parking
lots/garages.
- Public restrooms.
- The thing about these men is
that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move
her to a second location where they don't have to worry
about getting caught.
What will put them off?
- Only 2% said they carried weapons
because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with
a weapon is 15-20 years. If you put up any kind of a fight
at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute
or two for them to realize that going after you isn't
worth it because it will be time-consuming.
- These men said they will not
pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects
that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys
are not a deterrent because you have to get really closeto
the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is
to convince these guys you're not worth it.
Several defense mechanisms he
taught us are:
- If someone is following behind you on a street or in
garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them
in the face and ask them a question, like what time is
it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is
so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've
seen their face and could identify them in a lineup, you
lose appeal as a target.
- If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands
in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the
rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone
if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to
fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,)
yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be
a deterrent. (I'm not sure this is legal in the UK!)
- If someone grabs you, you can't
beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them.
If they grab your wrist, pull your wrist back so your
hand is in waving position (palm facing forward) and twist
it toward yourself and pull your arm away. It is hard
to hold onto wrist bones that are moving in that way.
They stumble toward you and you stumble back, so you can
use that momentum to bring the same out and backhand them
with your knuckles in the forehead, nose or teeth.
- If you are grabbed around the
waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the
arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner
thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told
him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying
to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the
skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches.
Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can
stand it; it hurts.
- After the initial hit, always
go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate
experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely
painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and
make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists
told our instructor is that they want a woman who will
not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and
he's out of there.
- When the guy puts his hands up
to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back
as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down
on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without
using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both
knuckles cracked audibly. Of course the things we always
hear still apply.
Always be
aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you
can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go
with your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the
time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
Please forward this to any woman you know, it's simple stuff
that could save her life.
Links:
Check the
legality of these tips within country of use!
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